TMO builds relationships that enhance people’s lives
In Jesus’ parable of the good Samaritan, he shows how one man, the Samaritan, goes out of his way to not only give aid to the man who was beaten and robbed by thieves, but who went the extra mile to care for the man. We think that crime is bad in many of our cities and neighborhoods, but the Samaritan story shows that even in Jesus time crime was a concern. We also know that this is not just a story about crime but it’s also about helping any person in need. Coupled with the stories of the feeding of the five thousand and Jesus’ healings, we see that Jesus was not just about preaching God’s will but he was also using the example of relationality to help us understand that the gospel is about community based on relationships.
Robert Putnam in his book, “Bowling Alone” laments that institutions such as churches, schools, community organizations, and fraternal organizations are losing their influence in our communities. The reasons for this includes distrust of the other, radical individualism, social mobility, fear of change in our midst, and a desire to hold onto what has been in the past. This results in isolation, fear and apathy. He further states that in the past, power in these institutions existed due to “connections among individuals–social networks and the norms of reciprocity and trustworthiness that arises from them”. Putnam goes on to say that this ability to trust and work together, over time, requires a certain amount of person to person contact to develop trust and mutual understanding. It cannot be created instantaneously or en masse. This is difficult, if not impossible, in a fluid society. Simply put, we don’t know our neighbor.
TMO has been in existence in Houston for over 30 years and in some neighborhoods where we have had member religious organizations, they have moved through three or four iterations of change during that time. In one community church, the congregation originally was all white, then it evolved into an all black church, then the community around it became primarily Hispanic, and later the neighborhood became a gentrified white townhouse community. Some of the congregation did not leave the church, but left the neighborhood and moved elsewhere. They now go to church in the church plant and after church they go back home. As a result there is little interaction between members and the community at large.
Love God, Love Neighbor
So, because of this isolation the majority of the congregation knows few of its neighbors. But, this lack of relationships is not just about isolation. In Matthew 5: 13-16 Jesus speaks of his followers as being the salt that sustains the world and gives the world it meaning. This saltiness is both individual and communal. We are called to be pro-active in our ministry which starts with our relationship to God and then moves to those who are also called but who have not been focused on Christ’s message. And if the salt loses its taste it will be cast out and trodden under foot. Jesus in these verses also states that we are the light of the world and not to hide our light under a bushel basket. In our world, that more and more values relationships less and less, Christians are called into relationship, first with the community of Christ and then those others who need to learn what it means to be loved as a neighbor.
One of TMO’s goals is to build relationships within communities that will help provide an atmosphere where trust and reciprocity can exist; where persons can feel accepted and that are valued as children of God. But TMO’s work is not always about Kumbaya. Communities have tensions and stress. And for a community to flourish relationships need to be strong enough to endure the differences in interests. TMO offers people the opportunity to develop the leadership skills necessary to be full participants in society. This requires training and the development of leaders to focus on issues effecting the lives of persons in the community.
How then do we build relational community? The primary way is for us to develop more relationships within our sphere of influence as well as across those lines of influence. A few suggestions are:
1. Join an ongoing small group such as a Sunday school class, Bible study, school group, or civic association.
2. Mentor a child or adult.
3. Get to know your neighbor. Have you ever noticed that people who walk their dogs have a whole set of acquaintances?
4. If you live in an apartment project encourage people to have building get togethers.
5. Develop ongoing service projects that require interaction between those who serve and those who are served.
These are just a few ideas and I know there are many more. Give us examples of what you’ve done in the comments section.
The Church dedicated a peace pole on 12-22-13
With the school year winding down, TMO will be focusing on building more relationships not only in Alief but throughout Houston. So far this spring we have had a very successful “pressures on families” campaign and we’ll meet on June 21 at 10am at Resurrection Catholic church at 915 Zoe to discuss our findings, particularly in the area of crime prevention.
In Alief, we will be expanding our relational footprint by visiting churches and civic groups to develop more relationships. We need a few gregarious persons who like to meet new people to help with this. For more information leave a comment or email me at franklinolson@sbcglobal.net.